Archive for ‘Servant-Leadership’

August 8, 2012

Guest Blog: Modern Good Samaritans

“As a man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, some robbers attacked him. They tore off his clothes, beat him, and left him lying there, almost dead. It happened that a priest was going down that road. When he saw the man, he walked by on the other side. Next, a Levite came there, and after he went over and looked at the man, he walked by on the other side of the road. Then a Samaritan traveling down the road came to where the hurt man was. When he saw the man, he felt very sorry for him. The Samaritan went to him, poured olive oil and wine on his wounds, and bandaged them. Then he put the hurt man on his own donkey and took him to an inn where he cared for him. The next day, the Samaritan brought out two coins, gave them to the innkeeper, and said, ‘Take care of this man. If you spend more money on him, I will pay it back to you when I come again,'” (Luke 10:30-35 NCV).

Sometimes, in life the unexpected is performed by the unlikeliest of characters.  A lawyer approached Jesus and asked, “Who is my neighbor?”  Jesus replied by telling him the story of the Good Samaritan.  A traveler in desperate need of help was passed by the two people who were expected to help, a priest and a Levite, presumably Hebrew, religious leaders of the day.  If anyone’s going to help a dying man, it would be a religious leader right?  Wrong!  In this case, a Samaritan, someone of a race historically mixed with and despised by Hebrews and vice versa was the unlikely hero of the story (Knowles, 2004).

In life and business, the opportunity to extend or withhold help will present itself to us.  What we choose to do in that moment will positively or negatively determine our future outcomes.  Researcher Thomas Tang and his colleagues conducted a study to test a model of employee helping behavior that explored the intrinsic (i.e. “The Good Samaritan Effect”) and extrinsic (i.e. money) motivations of employees’ decisions to help or not help a co-worker.  The study concluded that money negatively affected an employee’s willingness to aid another employee and intrinsic (altruistic) motives (i.e. “The Good Samaritan Effect”) was positively related to helping behavior.  The Samaritan had no obligation to help the dying man, yet moved with compassion he tended to the half-dead man above and beyond the call of duty.

Fast forward a couple thousand years and this is how the story of the Good Samaritan might look like in today’s business environment.

A Modern Samaritan

A woman wakes up from a coma wondering where she is.  A stranger is by her bedside and her body is wracked with pain.  “What happened?” she wonders and to the stranger she struggles, “Wh-who are you?”  It even hurts to speak.

“Who I am isn’t important,” he responds. “Only that you get better”.

*****

James sat in his office—recovering from his daily, verbal beat-down from his abuse boss and ready for a night out with his sweetheart makes ready to clock out.  But just then, he hears shots outside the office.

James leaves the office and sees a crowd gathering and curiosity prompts him to push forward to see the spectacle.  When he saw the couple gunned down like dogs on a highway, the contents of his stomach ascended past his mouth and onto the victims’ helpless bodies.

What he did not know was that the unfortunate couple was his boss and his boss’ wife, Waldorf; they’d been so disfigured by the beating and shootings, that they were unrecognizable.

“How can these people just walk past them and stare doing nothing?” James asked, half to himself and half aloud.  He wiped his mouth as he dialed 911 and soon the paramedics arrived.

He watched them load the bloodied bodies in the backs of the ambulances wondering “what if that was my wife?  Or what if that was me?”  James shuddered at the thought.  As the paramedic began to close the door he called out.

“Wait!  I’m coming too!”

“Are you a family member?” the paramedic asked confused.  “No, but I’m paying the hospital bill!”  And just like that, he hopped in the van and they were off.

*****

The woman looks at him again and asks, “Who are you?” in slow, laboured breaths.

“Who I am isn’t important,” James repeats, looking at her husband out of the corner of his eye.  “Only that you get better”.  It wasn’t until the victims were cleaned up that he finally recognized them.

His response grated on her more than all the combined pain of her current condition and a single tear slid out of Waldorf’s right eye.

What James did for Waldorf and his wife was purely altruistic; when he found out that is was them, it no longer mattered what type of relationship he’d had with his boss.  He had the opportunity to extend or withdraw a helping hand.  After all, if he’d refused, he would have [mentally] been justified in his actions—his wife was waiting on him for a romantic dinner date.  However, he set aside his personal needs to help a total “stranger.”  Like the Good Samaritan in the above passage of scripture, James was moved with compassion, and in both cases, lives were saved.

My Conclusion

Neither James nor the Good Samaritan knew who they were helping, but they helped anyways.  This was Jesus’ point to the lawyer—the victim in the story was robbed and stripped naked, thereby leaving him unidentifiable.  His lack of identity emphasized the importance of aiding someone regardless of their race, socioeconomic status, and other labels used to categorize individuals.  When it’s all said and done, we are all human, and based on this shared humanity we should reach out and care for others in need when the opportunity arises.

In business, you never know who your next customer might be.  You do not know how a small act of kindness could turn that person into an enthused brand ambassador or loyal customer.  However, that should not be the motivation for helping others only an added benefit for doing so.

Oh!  Did I mention, months after Waldorf and his wife recovered, he visited James and apologized for his nasty behavior toward him?

About the Author:

Namie Bimba is the daughter of missionaries and is an MBA Candidate at Regent University.  She blogs about various life experiences, events, culture, fashion, theology, and more at www.missbimba.tumblr.com.

References:

  • Biblegateway.com. (2012). The Good Samaritan: Luke 10:25-27. New Century Version. Retrieved from http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Luke%2010:25-37&version=NCV.
  • Knowles, M.P. (2004). What was the victim wearing? Literary, economic, and social contexts for the parable of the Good Samaritan. Biblical Interpretation, 12(2), 145-174.
  • Tang, T., Sutarso, T., Davis, G., Dolinski, D., Ibrahim, A., & Wagner, S. (2008). To Help or Not to Help? The Good Samaritan Effect and the Love of Money on Helping Behavior. Journal of Business Ethics, 82(4), 865-887.

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May 9, 2012

The Right to Write

When we as Americans think of our rights, we rarely think of writing.  But writing most certainly is an innate right of ours.  Merriam-Webster describes a right as,

“qualities (as adherence to duty or obedience to lawful authority) that together constitute the ideal of moral propriety or merit moral approval; something to which someone has a just claim; the power or privilege one is justly entitled to; something that someone may claim as due; the cause of truth or justice”. 

You—whoever you are, wherever you’re from—have the duty, claim, power, privilege, and entitlement to write.  It is our gift and privilege as human beings to be able to take our thoughts, emotions, wisdom, and advice, record it—either by ourselves or with the help of someone else—and present it to the world.

Writing is Serving

I will refer to a quote which was the basis of my first post “Write to Serve” by author and branding strategist, Marshawn Evans, which states,

“If we look at writing as serving, [it] will probably change our perspective on it”.

We must serve our gifts to the world.  What good will keeping it to yourself do?  You may not be the number one person in your industry; you may only be a young entrepreneur like myself, but you can help someone.  You can encourage someone.  You can help someone avoid the mistakes you made along the way.  Experience is a great teacher, but sharing wisdom makes you a greater teacher.

What You Love vs. What Serves

Rabbi Daniel Lapin is a wonderful man and author of several books such as Thou Shalt Prosper has a very different spin on entrepreneurship and life than many do.  He believes that to tell someone to study and do what makes them happy.  Instead, you should serve people by meeting a need and that, in turn, will make you happy.

Take your writing and or entrepreneur giftings, share them, and serve them to your fellow man.  You will change someone’s life and be happier than the popular, yet selfish mindset of simply doing what makes you happy.  What you feel makes you happy is subject to change; making someone else happy never changes.  That is the true pursuit of happiness; not just for you, but for the world.  It is your inalienable right.

Be Fruitful & Multiply

Last and most importantly we are commanded to serve our gifts.  How? Where?  Great question.

In March, I was able to visit Orlando, FL and hear one of my favourite ministers, Bishop Tudor Bismark preach.  He taught a new sermon of his entitled “Be Fruitful and Multiply”.  In it, he illuminated to us that the first thing God said to [man] after He created us was “be fruitful and multiply”.  He also walked through the rest of Genesis up to Jacob’s blessing his son Joseph’s sons, Ephraim and Manasseh.

Now most people think that “be fruitful and multiply” means to have a lot of babies.  And though I do not disagree with the truth of that statement, it does not stop there.  We are to multiply in love, kindness, finances, and yes, our gifts.

In the Book of Matthew, Jesus tells a story about a man leaving his servants with talents (money).  One had five, another two, and the last one.  The first multiplied his talent and when his master returned, was able to give him back ten.  The second servant returned four talents to his master.  However, the one talent man did not even invest that one; instead, he buried it and returned the single talent to his master.

The master was pleased with what the five-talent and two-talent servants did, so much so that he made them rulers over cities commiserate to their gifts and abilities.  However, when the one-talent man faced him, accusing him as a harsh man who takes what isn’t his and so forth and so on, he took the talent, gave it to the one who had five, and threw the man into darkness.  (See entire parable in Matthew 25:14-30.)

Let’s look at this story objectively: the men who multiplied their talents were considered faithful and given a reward for their faithfulness.  The one who buried his talent had it taken from him, was considered “wicked and lazy”, and was punished.

Some of you may find this unfair.  Why should the one-talent man be punished for his fear and returning exactly what he was given?  Because seedtime and harvest is a biblical—and logical—law.

Illustration: How would you feel if you invested your money in a bank and at the end of the allotted time, you got back nothing more than what you’d put in in the first place?  You’d be upset.  You’d feel like you wasted your time as well as the investment; you could have put it somewhere else and gotten much more out of it. 

When God created plants and trees and flowers, He did so placing within them the ability to reproduce themselves—to multiply—without Him having to create them all over again (Genesis 1:11).  He did the same with the birds, sea creatures, and land animals.  Everything created has within it the seed to multiply.  Therefore, if we simply maintain what we have, that alone is not acceptable to God.

We are meant to multiply, increase, our talents and gifts.  Don’t just limit your writing abilities to your personal journal, launch a blog.  Write for a community newspaper.  Start your manuscript—something!  It’s the same with the fashionista, the history buff, science “nerd”, and more.  Find what your gifts are, no matter how great or small, how popular or obscure—bar anything illegal of course—and serve them.  Multiply them.

And guess what?  God will bless you!  Why would you not want to usurp your God-given right to write, serve people, and make God happy?  “Try Him in this” and see if He won’t bless you!

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April 25, 2012

Write to Serve

I’d like to introduce myself to those of you who may not know me. I’m Desiree M. Mondesir and I run my own virtual freelancing company, Desired Assistance (a.k.a. DA), as well as my own spin-off wedding blog, DA Weddings. As you can probably imagine, I love to write.

A Powerful Statement from a Powerful Woman

I recently and quite by chance, discovered a wonderful woman named Marshawn Evans who is a marketplace mentor and reinvention strategist who specializes in helping women leaders elevate their purpose as well as launch lucrative brand empires.  And I’ve decided that she is my new mentor-from-a-distance. She may not know me yet, but she has already impacted my life in a significant way.

(By the way, if you all do not have mentors in close proximity to you, I encourage you to adopt them from afar and allow their materials whether they are interviews, podcasts, books, blogs, etc., to mentor you from afar until you’re blessed to know them or encounter other personal mentors.)

Today I received an email from her site today and it had a clip of a radio interview she did recently.  In it, she made a point that made me cringe a little and that I think we should all consider and implement. The statement she made was:

If we look at writing as serving, that will probably change our perspective on [how we view] it”.

I was floored.  Yes, I am a writer and yes, I have three blogs—two professional, and one “soapbox”. However, the writing I’ve been saying I’ll publish and unsuccessfully attempting to do for years is becoming stale.  The books fanciful, theological, and poetical, I’ve been saying for years I’d write sit unfinished or un-started.  (Yes I just created a word. Shakespeare did it, cut me some slack!) And now with Marshawn’s weighty words settling on me, I realise the treasures, the advice, the wisdom, and the knowledge that I have—willfully—refused to serve my generation with.

Was it intentional? No. Was it somewhat discerning? Depends. Was it acceptable for me to be entirely unpublished by this point? Absolutely not.  I know I could and can do better, and now I will. I allowed immediate situations, concerns of inadequacy, and Lord knows what else stop be, but no more.

Serve Your Gift

Some of you are not necessarily meant to be publishers on the New York Times’ Best Seller list, but perhaps there’s a blogging or similar void out there that will forever remain empty until you serve your gift in your respective area.   It could be weddings or events like me, a blog for moms, book worms, or beauticians.  Maybe there’s a financial or scientific column somewhere that needs an author and it’s you. Now that you are sufficiently informed, will you continue to deny the world—either on a local or global level—your voice and gift(s) in that area?

Dr. Myles Munroe, one of the foremost voices in the world as it concerns leadership as well as the Kingdom of God, has messages and materials without number on the subject of servant-leadership.  Something I’ve heard and read him say time without end is “die empty”.  The grave yards throughout the world amass the greatest treasures in the world because it is full of people who refused for one reason or another to serve the world their gifts; they died full. I implore you not to do the same.

Serve the world your gift; die empty.

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